At all different stages in life people go through changes. Good, bad, ugly, emotional, exciting … you name it, we’ve all gone through it. At this current moment in my life my closest friends are all going through very different situations but we’re all currently going through a tough time.
Right before a whirlwind trip to Miami last weekend I picked up Kate Hudson’s new book, Pretty Happy.
While I’ve only just begun the book I found a few paragraphs that I thought to send to my friends in a group email. I then decided instead to write it here because if I felt that if this could apply to 3 of my friends in entirely different situations, I feel like it could apply to many more.
Take this in whatever context serves you:
“…I’ve learned I have to embrace all the ups and downs, false starts, and backward slides in my life. I’ve gotten over heartache. I’ve also had to be honest and admit that my tendencies towards extremes either backfired or failed completely. These decisions and my past way of dealing with challenges and crises are part of my history, part of me- but I no longer let them hold me back. I’ve learned how to see that baggage for what it is – a part of my past that no longer works for me. But that doesn’t mean those old feelings, old reactions to situations and, more important, old behaviors don’t surface – they do.
If you’ve gone through heartbreak and lost your confidence, you know what I am talking about. You may have found a new relationship or embraced your independence, but the wound might still hurt. Part of growth is taking the hurt and using it for something positive. This is part of happiness, but I also believe it is part of wellness.
Sure, it can be scary starting anything new- there is a fear of moving forward. Sometimes, it’s a fear of leaving what’s familiar. Sometimes it’s a fear of what lies ahead or the unknown. All change can be difficult, so it’s important that you make big changes gradually.
All things will and do change. What’s important is to be clear as you pass through the process of change so that you don’t stop or get stuck in a fear or blame cycle that throws you off course.”
In the words of Joe Dirt, keep on keepin on.